Lack of coping
What do you do when you're having a bad day (month, year) and you just can't cope anymore?
I just can't cope now.
I can only see one way out of this.
posted by Buddhist Cripple @ 3:33 pm
Friday, October 14, 2005
I just can't cope now.
I can only see one way out of this.
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- Name: Buddhist Cripple
- Location: United Kingdom
I'm a 24 year old Buddhist with Fibromyalgia. I live in England where it tends to rain a lot. Actually, that's not entirely true; I used to live up North, where it rained all the time. Down South, it's not too bad. I have a few life long ambitions, but they can't be realised until I have a lot more money. So if anyone wants to give me money, go for it! Hehehe. I'd like to be paid to write; I'm in the process of writing a few books. Or I'd like to be paid to write music, I write classical.
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I know it's easy for me to say this because I'm not feeling the way you are right now, but try and look to the future when whatever it is that's causing you stress will have gone/died down/changed/all of the above.
Is there someone you can talk to or even scream at? I'm not being flippant: a friend of mine was really depressed and I asked if I could help; he spent about 5 minutes just screaming and shouting at me about what was getting him down and he said it made him feel much better.
When I'm down I either listen to some good music (avoiding Radiohead!) or watch a film like The Shawshank Redemption.
Feel free to drop me an email if you want to talk:
timothy_griffin at mac dot com
I was worried aobut you're last sentence. It sent a chill down me.
I know.. .or do I know how you feell? I've had days of depression, not feeling I can cope with life. That is, my life, what it has to offer, or little to offer more like. Yes, that sounds ungrateful of me when, I should be thankful for a lot. However, my bi problem has been emmotional pain sometimes but, mostly low expectations of me. Not only from others around me but, what life has and, is offering me. My fresh post just now states a good example of low expectation and, a kind of emtrapment. I don't like going on about me in answer to your post. Seems self endulgant, insensative of me. I hope, at least you know you're not alone. I know how easy it is to think otherwise, especially when no one else around you seems to be struggling, or held back in someway. Or, if so, that it doesn't seem to show on them.
What do I do?...In reality, what I did recently is what timmargh suggested and shouted (and swore)at someone. At length. I also made stabbing motions on a pillow with a biro. It seemed to help! I felt much better after that! I haven't done that for ages, but then I haven't felt like that for ages.
What else? I try to get some 'me' time. My me time is to get some exercise, as that helps to lift my depression. I haven't been able to do that lately, which is why I have not had as much control of my feelings as I'd like, I think.
Also, I try to look at the root cause of why I am feeling the way I do. This is usually low self-esteem and I can often do a little to raise it by talking to someone. I don't have any close friend or relative I can do this with (even though I am married, and my partner is my best friend, I can't communicate with him as I'd like to. Maybe because he hasn't had any 'stuff' to deal with. I do have some friends I can talk to, but i really need a good hour every week to get out of a really black hole, and I wouldn't want to do that with a friend.) So I've talked to a counseller, on and off, over the years.
Another thing that helps my self-esteem is to look at the effort I put in, not what I achieve. Also, to find assertive role models.
I think of long-term goals and short term aims to change my situation for the better.
Another thing I have done is to stop comparing myself so much with others. It is surprising how much that has helped, as the big difference is that I am free to be creative about what I want to do.
I don't know if any of this is relevant to you, but I can only speak from my own experiences.
Much love, Jacqui.
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